Enough
Thank you so much for the comments and emails yesterday. I still keep looking at my ankle in surprise and because I love it.
And I sure needed to hear something nice. Because frankly, I've had about the worst 12 hours of my life. I've always known being the mother to teenagers was hard, but it has just been kicked up a notch. And I've had enough. It is very hard to hear the hateful words that can come out of their mouths. I know in the long run they don't mean it, but it breaks my heart. And I honestly don't know what to do.
Why can't they stay little forever? When they love you, don't question how you breathe and you never hear them screaming that they hate you.
I really don't think I'm doing this well at all sometimes. I so badly need a break before I do.
Posted by Heather at 8:52 AM
6 Comments
Do not doubt yourself. You are a great mother! The adversity you are experiencing is the product of you being a great mother and trying to show your kids the way. The words are probably painful. (I remember some of the awful things I said to my Mother) But you know they don't mean it. Hang in there. Maturity is just around the corner :-)
You're tougher then they are, just remember that! And if need be you can come sleep on my couch...
One day they're going to realize what a great mom you are and then they're gonna feel really really dumb. And then you can laugh at them.
Hang in there.
It will all come right in the end. They know you love them. They love you too - it's just a bit "uncool" to say so. I love your tattoo - my cool mother has one, I'm too chicken. Thanks for putting a pin in my map!
Heather, I'm sure you are one heck of a mother, if you weren't, then your children being hateful wouldn't bother you one bit. Kids go through phases, they will get over it and realize one day that they love you immensely, until then, do what you can do to hang in there. Atleast you don't have a 2 1/2 year old yelling "I can't like you mommy, go away." Talk about starting young! Keep your chin up!
Oh sweetie.... if our kids didn't yell, scream and hate us -- then we aren't parenting right! Just ask my mother... man... I hated that women growing up ... and she was a great mother... but I was stubborn, pig-headed, and knew how to push all of her buttons.
I wanted to be my own person and with that saw to it that my mother knew that she was the closest thing to the devil... totally untrue of course --- but since I couldn't be older and more independent I just wanted to lash out and hurt the one person who would love me no matter what...
So hang in there... it's all worth it... we kids come out normal... not matter what we say to our parents -- because of the love (through the good and bad) that our parents have for us!
If you need a break come visit... I have a room and several LYS waiting for you!
Ah - been there, seen it,done it. Don't be so hard on yourself. My 3 kids put me through some tough times (right now I am actually down to 2 kids, by no choice of my own). I have been hurt, not spoken to, spoken to badly, left out of some of the most important days in my children's lives...however....I know and always knew that they loved me (in spite of whatever issues they had) and did my best to be patient (but also not a dishrag) and waited for them to come around, all the while letting them know that I may not have liked their behavior, but I still loved them very much. Today, I have two absolutely fantastic, caring, loving daughters who I am so proud of. As moms, we have to be able to take a lot, be resilient, and also know when to let go and not enable our children. In the end, if we do our very best in raising them, they will rise to the occasion and become wonderful human beings (well, two out of three anyway!!).
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